People Series Summary – People & Success

by Daniel Ngari on February 21, 2009

Those who create sustainable success do it by building others up. Succeeding at the expense of others or by putting people down is a mean habit and often a recipe for long term failure. The people you surround yourself with and your attitude towards other people will determine your level of success.

This is the last blog post on the people series. In this series, we have looked at a few issues that may affect your success or relationships with other people. Today’s blog post is listing of all the blog posts in this series and a brief summary of each.

1. Succeed by Building Others Up

Succeeding by building others up is akin to planting good seeds. You reap what you sow. If you do a good job for others it will come back to you. If you focus on providing exceptional value to others, you will build them up and eventually it will get back to you.

2. How to Bring Out the Best in People

You can bring out the best in people by making them feel good about themselves. People will often forget what you say to them, but few forget how you make them feel. You can make people feel better by being genuinely interested in them, expecting the best from them and accepting them for whom they are.

Most people do not take criticism very well. It is better to avoid criticizing people and instead provide them with a soft landing even when they make mistakes. People are different; listening to them helps gain an understanding that can help you bring out the best in them.

3. A Magic Word Called Empathy

Empathy means sharing in another person’s feelings and emotions. It means putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. Having an emotional barometer means being in tune with the changes in moods, feelings and circumstances of others. Without understanding each others’ emotional states, it is hard to communicate and move along in harmony.

4. Show Me Your Friends

Show me your friends and I will tell you what kind of person you are. The company you keep reflects on you. Birds of a feather flock together. People assume you are just like the people you hang out with. Have you ever done an audit of the kind of people you allow into your space?

Your friends will have a very important impact on your thought pattern, ambition and rate of progress. Associate with people who are positive and get rid of people who pull you down.

5. Are You Addicted to Hot Juicy Gossip?

Gossip is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others.  Many people love gossip.

The problem with surrounding yourself with “gossip friends” is that they rarely talk positive things about anything or anyone. They are always looking to tear others instead of building them up. Their main focus on life is negative thoughts, words and situations. They delight in misfortune and peddle the spirit of fear.

Gossip permeates through different aspects of life. People are fascinated by gossip, both men and women. People love gossip, be it celebrity gossip, social or office gossip. Gossip serves as a form of entertainment and is very enticing.

You should however ask yourself what kind of impact gossip has and control how much of it you let into your life. Avoid gossip if it seriously impacts on your success.

6. The Curse of Conformity

Many people do not realize that by trying to conform to social conditioning, we may be unknowingly limiting our success.

People who are just like everyone else end up becoming invisible. Something remarkable is worth talking about, worth paying attention to.

You become remarkable by daring to be different. You become remarkable by stepping up your game. If you do things the same as everyone else, you will get the same results. I encourage you to find your angle. Bring something different to the table. Do not conform to what everyone else does, especially in business and careers. Be remarkable. Dare to be different. Be the best you can be.

7. We are One but we are Many – Race & Racism

Racism is the belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and those racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race. We are all part of the human family and we should focus more on what brings us together instead of what divides us. We are one but we are many.

Ignorance is the cause of racism. Do something today to shun intolerance by learning something positive about people from a different race or part of the world or country. It is the small steps towards accepting diversity that will help us rise above mediocrity and usher in an era of social justice and success.

8. Meet Invisible People

It is easy to ignore people who are different or who rank lower than us in our professions. The meet invisible people blog post looked at scenarios and example of how people ignore others in life. It is good to acknowledge or appreciate those “invisible” people around us.

9. Stuff Positive People Like

A lot has been written about stuff white people like and stuff black people like. Many of the people reading this blog are positive people so I thought of creating a list of stuff positive people like. It is good to have a laugh at ourselves every now and again.

10. A Winning Contacts Building Strategy

You will need other people in order to reach the apex of your success. Call it standing on the shoulders of giants or what you may. Contacts building strategies are vital for the upwardly mobile. A winning contacts building strategy focuses on quality & sustainability not just numbers for the sake of numbers.

Focus on building contacts that you can get something from, as well as offer them something. Think not what your contacts can do for you, but what you can do for your contacts.

Next Series

That marks the end of the people series. We looked at some human relations issues that have the potential of influencing our success.

The next series will focus on the mind. We shall look at how we can sharpen our minds, and use our minds as tools for our success. The new series will look at issues like concentration, thoughts, mind maps, sparkling creativity, power of imagination and much more. I look forward to your visits and hope that I will be able to inspire you to be the best you can be by utilizing the immense power of your mind for success.


{ 5 comments }

Philip D.W.N February 22, 2009 at 11:55 am

Yes I have been positively inspired by the people series and I will strive to be a better person. People and society at large are judged by the standards they set for themselves.
Thanks for Inspiring us to aim high and I look forward to more of this stuff.

Daniel Ngari February 22, 2009 at 10:08 am

@ Paula – Thank you for your daily visits and comments. See you here tomorrow. Have a good day. Hope we can all apply some of those lessons in our lives.

Paula February 22, 2009 at 9:29 am

This has been a moving series .. I could not help but be here daily…..
Whatever is in for tomorrow I cant wait

Daniel Ngari February 22, 2009 at 6:18 am

@ Joy – Thank you for reading, visiting and your constant support. I have also learnt a lot about people and success. What I have written is just a tip of the iceberg, but am sure people can learn from it too. The next series is something that I really need to explore and sharpen – THE MIND.

Joy February 22, 2009 at 3:53 am

Dan, we are definitely better at handling people, and have become more sensitive on how we relate with other people..Looking forward to the new series…Thanks for always being such an inspiration.

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