Comments on: Show Me Your Friends

By: Robert Echa

Robert Echa — Mon, 25 May 2009 14:40:30 +0000

hello Mr Dan,like it says,that two cannot walk together unless they agree.We cannot avoid to make friends.Like u rightly said,we choose them .Some bad ones play certain roles too in our lives.Nevertheless,I’ve learnt not to keep mediocres in my comfort zone..So what’s important to me is just to be relatable.Great work.

By: Karen

Karen — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 17:35:41 +0000

Daniel,

this is the last article i read or rather recap on:-) tell me how would you classify a person who during party time she has a different sort of pals she spends time with and when doing other things like church again a different bunch, CSR different bunch. what do u make of such a person. she has true friends who are mainly male…..who she talks too, shares with…these male pals are people who educated, people who are well interacted in all ways that are good. but she has not best friend in terms of every day hanging out with….talk to me
cheers! the above is not fictional…true story

By: munga

munga — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 17:06:02 +0000

nice work men

By: NANCY KARIUKI

NANCY KARIUKI — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 12:15:23 +0000

HI DANNY’
Thanx so much for your inspiration. It enlightens so much especially for us youths. Thanx for reminding us the many principles of life that we seem to forget many times in our day to day life.
Cheers man’
Good work.

By: damaris

damaris — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 05:48:54 +0000

your website is so inspiring.i agree with u about keeping off a bad company.as the bible says,bad company ruins good morals.

By: mwangi

mwangi — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 11:05:00 +0000

theres a anothe rmwangi? lol! now, i dont mean to say im a genius but some of you are misunderstanding the point of this article, he didnt say distance yourself, he just said watch who you let into your space, if you are around negativity, it starts to rub off on you, same thing with positivity……if any of you went to school in upcountry, then you all know that principals would just assume all students from towns especially Nairobi were unruly(my school was like that), that they didnt like to study, that they were destined for expulsions! that didnt mean you had to dissociate yourself from friends hailing from Nairobi, it just meant that you had to choose who you’d hang out with, and ensure that you didnt cross paths with the adminstration coz they would be biased!

By: Charity

Charity — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 09:20:17 +0000

Accept your destiny slimjess. LOL

By: slimjess

slimjess — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 09:18:24 +0000

Hi
what if you whatever you do you still end up with thuggish friends, what do you do then ? It might be you were meant to be a thug but you deny you destiny ama am just lost doomed 4 life?

By: dickson mwangangi

dickson mwangangi — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 06:51:34 +0000

ithink you have great mind boy. i wish i had friends like you .dickson (ku)

By: aileen veleci

aileen veleci — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 07:32:14 +0000

hi daniel
From what i read , it seems that the concept of gaining ground through choosing friend to be linked particular to almost a certain people. You mention shifting allegiance and not carrying the entire communities burdens.This is not entirely the reason for the post as i read on.

By: Nelson

Nelson — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 05:43:06 +0000

Hey dude!
That’s one inspiring article and also a reflective point of view.Thanxs for the information and keep up the Kenyan Spirit.
Later

By: Cee

Cee — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 15:34:38 +0000

When it comes to making friends and deciding who should be allowed into your friendship circles, it is very tricky. I agree with most of what you have written but then again I remember that you need everyone to succeed. Even those that pull you down. You can never smoothen wood without an abrasive. I guess as you choose your pals, just learn the role the person plays in your life. The optimists will help you see the positive in life and the pessimists show you the negative, it’s your role to decide which will determine your decisions and actions.
I have watched many communities come together and succeed as one but honestly I’m yet to meet a group of Kenyans in any country that work as a people with the goodness of each other at heart. I understand when Kenyans in teh diaspora go as far as adapting different accents and learning other languages like the creole from West Africa just to mask their Kenyanness. I guess we should look deeper and see what the Kenyan problem is.

By: John

John — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 14:45:42 +0000

Hey everyone,

Thanks for your post Daniel , good to have such ideas. Its true what you have said about friends , its important to know which friendships contribute to bettering ourselves.

From what i read , it seems that the concept of gaining ground through choosing friend to be linked particular to almost a certain people. You mention shifting allegiance and not carrying the entire communities burdens.This is not entirely the reason for the post as i read on.

Mwangi mentions a issue am passionate about , the community. I have observed over the years that success to a lot of immigrants is defined through association of a another group of people. This is expected for many reasons ranging from economic , social, and political.

Humans by nature are prejudice and people will seek to compare themselves to others to be able to almost define there elevation. the situation has lead to a very interesting scenarios.Over the years i have seen immigrants define themselves according there back grounds, north or south localities, keycards and steelcaps

In our search for success and choosing friends, lets not forgot that the success of others and the community. maybe instead of rejecting friends ,maybe we can try and help them to as much as the can be helped. we cannot choose who reads this blog ….but we hope it encourages everyone.

By: Gabriel Kemboi

Gabriel Kemboi — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 15:57:57 +0000

I like your positive thoughts Daniel, I start applying it in reality and the life tunnel will seem brighter. Thank you

By: Muthoka

Muthoka — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 08:39:05 +0000

Saw you material on facebook, clicked on it by mistake turned out to be a good mistake. Forwarded to all my friends in the office, they are liking it.

Keep up the good work.

Juz incase you have friends who want to invest in unit trusts hola.The market for fixed income instruments is quite good and you only need a minimum of Ksh.100,000.00. The returns are higher than savings accounts and withdrawals can be done at any time.

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By: David Hamilton

David Hamilton — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 08:16:21 +0000

Question….what attracts us to somebody from the very first moment? Think about that, there are many, many different emotions that attract us to want to get to know somebody better. So if there are friends out there that you now consider you should ‘drop’ ask yourself what attracted you to them in the first place. What changed, what went wrong, was it them, or you?

By: james karuku

james karuku — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 04:16:59 +0000

@ Mwangi- If your boat is sinking, do you hold on to your luggage to save it all, or do you lighten yourself of the luggage you don’t need most so you make it the shore?

By: Charity

Charity — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 02:17:50 +0000

@ Mwangi – You wrote “Now, I have a couple of problems with this:
1) You have to reject people: This idea of rejecting people and selecting something over people has always been a bit of a problem to me” – What if some people are a pain? You would treat them just as any other pain unless you are a glutton for punishment lol. Right? Do not feel bad about rejecting people if they plan or execute your downfall. By the way I love your 49 songs.

By: Brenda Njeru

Brenda Njeru — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 02:04:58 +0000

Some friends are there for a reason, some for a season.
In my life’s experience, I have realised not all will like you, not all will be happy for you (even they ones you think they must),not all want you to succeed.
But thats life,

What I have learnt is to accept that,be in peace with all people from your side (Regardless, there is not excuse blocking your path because of grudges). You cannot control what others do or say or think but surely you can control thy ownself.

And should you part ways, leave your heart light, wish them well and go on with your life!

By: Daniel Ngari

Daniel Ngari — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 01:51:16 +0000

@ Paula – Thank you for your comment once again. Letting go is not easy, but sometimes necessary. Maybe to avoid the pain of letting go, we should just be more conscious of friends we attract to our lives in the first place. Friends can make or break you, with or without you being aware. Sometimes the impact of some friendships will not be felt for years.