Comments on: 10 Powerful Strategies for Dealing with Heartache http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache Sat, 23 Jul 2011 08:51:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Amos Gichamba http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-5504 Amos Gichamba Sat, 13 Nov 2010 19:03:11 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-5504 Arun. Take heart bro. you are still very young and you don't need to 'lose your life' over a woman. Whatever happens, just know the reason why you broke up is because she was not the best person for you. You have a long life ahead of you. At the moment concentrate on your studies and do well. Establish yourself in your career and work a lot on improving yourself as a person. Don't give control to your ex, to determine your peace of mind and joy.Let go of her...if she's yours she' come back some time, if she's not...let it be...its a just to find your true love, who will suit you far much more than you ex ever did. If you are a christian, turn to God in prayer and know that he has your destiny in his hands.trust Him and He shall bring the right person in your life in due time. All the best in your upcoming exam Arun. Take heart bro. you are still very young and you don’t need to ‘lose your life’ over a woman.
Whatever happens, just know the reason why you broke up is because she was not the best person for you. You have a long life ahead of you. At the moment concentrate on your studies and do well. Establish yourself in your career and work a lot on improving yourself as a person.
Don’t give control to your ex, to determine your peace of mind and joy.Let go of her…if she’s yours she’ come back some time, if she’s not…let it be…its a just to find your true love, who will suit you far much more than you ex ever did.
If you are a christian, turn to God in prayer and know that he has your destiny in his hands.trust Him and He shall bring the right person in your life in due time.
All the best in your upcoming exam

]]> By: Amos Gichamba http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-5503 Amos Gichamba Sat, 13 Nov 2010 16:39:47 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-5503 Thanks Daniel for sharing this. At one time in life we get hurt by the people we loved the most, and whom we never thought could ever hurt us. Am glad to encourage someone who's hurting or has been hurt; Someone who breaks your heart is not worth having you. We should all understand that there are very special and precious things in us that should never be taken for granted.If anyone takes you for granted or mistreats you (e.g. cheating or abuse) in a relationship, that is definitely not the person you want to give your heart. In case of a heartbreak, just know its a new opportunity to be with someone who loves you, respects you and takes you for who you are. Its just a vacancy that has been created by circumstances in your life, to be filled in by the right person. Get rid of thoughts about your ex, and move on.Thinking of them and wishing that things would work is delaying your journey to healing and finding your ideal partner. Some things which would be of help; 1.Create new friends Your ex is very replaceable in your life. Form new friendships and use this time to re-ignite old friendships. Get to see things in a different perspective and also to appreciate other people in your life. 2.Get rid of what reminds you about them Shelf all those presents, notes, cards, etc away. Avoid things that remind you about the relationship, including places you used to spend time a lot together, e.g a particular park or restaurant. 3.Re-brand yourself Change things about yourself that you have been postponing. Finish that book you've been reading, get back to the gym, get back to school, take professional courses to help you climb up the ladder in employment or business. Other re-branding techniques include changing your appearance e.g. getting a new hair style, clothes, shoes, accessories, new cologne, etc. The idea is to bring out someone else out of your former self...someone else who's better, more focused and more propelled towards a very bright and promising destiny. Do all this for yourself, not to make your ex feel bad to have lost you. 4.Take note of all things you learned in your previous relationship Even though its over, it was not really a waste of time. You must have learned life lessons that will determine how you handle your future relationships. Those are lessons that you needed to have a successful relationship in your future. note them down, and be grateful for the knowledge and wisdom you gained. It actually made you better...since were it not for that relationship, you won't have learned those lessons. 5.Acknowledge the ones around you Take time to recognize that there are people who love you just as you are, and have always been there to support you. So by one person hurting you doesn't mean your world has crumbled down. Appreciate your family members, close friends and relatives who have always been there for you and appreciate their love, concern and care for you. 6.Moving On Give yourself time to heal before getting into another relationship. Once you heal, get back on the ground and give yourself another chance to love and to be loved again. Remember now you are a far much better person, a lot has changed and improved about you, and you are better, wiser, more knowledgeable and you even deserve so much more than your ex ever gave you. There is no looking back. Love and be loved, once again...get ready for something far much better this time! Thanks Daniel for sharing this. At one time in life we get hurt by the people we loved the most, and whom we never thought could ever hurt us. Am glad to encourage someone who’s hurting or has been hurt;
Someone who breaks your heart is not worth having you. We should all understand that there are very special and precious things in us that should never be taken for granted.If anyone takes you for granted or mistreats you (e.g. cheating or abuse) in a relationship, that is definitely not the person you want to give your heart.
In case of a heartbreak, just know its a new opportunity to be with someone who loves you, respects you and takes you for who you are. Its just a vacancy that has been created by circumstances in your life, to be filled in by the right person. Get rid of thoughts about your ex, and move on.Thinking of them and wishing that things would work is delaying your journey to healing and finding your ideal partner. Some things which would be of help;
1.Create new friends
Your ex is very replaceable in your life. Form new friendships and use this time to re-ignite old friendships. Get to see things in a different perspective and also to appreciate other people in your life.
2.Get rid of what reminds you about them
Shelf all those presents, notes, cards, etc away. Avoid things that remind you about the relationship, including places you used to spend time a lot together, e.g a particular park or restaurant.
3.Re-brand yourself
Change things about yourself that you have been postponing. Finish that book you’ve been reading, get back to the gym, get back to school, take professional courses to help you climb up the ladder in employment or business. Other re-branding techniques include changing your appearance e.g. getting a new hair style, clothes, shoes, accessories, new cologne, etc. The idea is to bring out someone else out of your former self…someone else who’s better, more focused and more propelled towards a very bright and promising destiny. Do all this for yourself, not to make your ex feel bad to have lost you.
4.Take note of all things you learned in your previous relationship
Even though its over, it was not really a waste of time. You must have learned life lessons that will determine how you handle your future relationships. Those are lessons that you needed to have a successful relationship in your future. note them down, and be grateful for the knowledge and wisdom you gained. It actually made you better…since were it not for that relationship, you won’t have learned those lessons.
5.Acknowledge the ones around you
Take time to recognize that there are people who love you just as you are, and have always been there to support you. So by one person hurting you doesn’t mean your world has crumbled down. Appreciate your family members, close friends and relatives who have always been there for you and appreciate their love, concern and care for you.
6.Moving On
Give yourself time to heal before getting into another relationship. Once you heal, get back on the ground and give yourself another chance to love and to be loved again.
Remember now you are a far much better person, a lot has changed and improved about you, and you are better, wiser, more knowledgeable and you even deserve so much more than your ex ever gave you. There is no looking back.

Love and be loved, once again…get ready for something far much better this time!

]]> By: Arun http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-5408 Arun Tue, 22 Jun 2010 04:16:24 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-5408 Cant even begin to explain how I am feeling right now. I'm 20. And suffering a heartbreak so much. I've let go of the anger, let go of everything that caused all that happened, but now I'm left with memories of her. Memories of the time we had together. It pains me. Beyond what words can ever explain. I've lost colour, i've lost my life. People say time heals, but I dont know if time ever will in my case. I have no hope. I find myself thinking about it more ,when I try to distract myself away from it. I have a major exam coming up in two weeks and I am just-not-able-to-focus. I know guys are(typically) not supposed to cry, but I've cried and cried and I'm pained. I miss her. I loved her, I love her. And as I type these words again, I'm crying all over. Wonder why I had to fall in love. And then lose, the woman of my life. Cant even begin to explain how I am feeling right now. I’m 20. And suffering a heartbreak so much. I’ve let go of the anger, let go of everything that caused all that happened, but now I’m left with memories of her. Memories of the time we had together. It pains me. Beyond what words can ever explain. I’ve lost colour, i’ve lost my life. People say time heals, but I dont know if time ever will in my case. I have no hope.

I find myself thinking about it more ,when I try to distract myself away from it. I have a major exam coming up in two weeks and I am just-not-able-to-focus.

I know guys are(typically) not supposed to cry, but I’ve cried and cried and I’m pained. I miss her. I loved her, I love her. And as I type these words again, I’m crying all over.

Wonder why I had to fall in love. And then lose, the woman of my life.

]]> By: dave green http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-5053 dave green Fri, 09 Apr 2010 15:14:31 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-5053 maria please understand its you that needs to be strong. please dont let the word of another human being guide you. for you to believe in a god you need to realise that its the word of another human being that you believe in.why cant you be strong on your own you have my pity that you believe in the word of another human being as they are manipulating you maria please understand its you that needs to be strong.

please dont let the word of another human being guide you.

for you to believe in a god you need to realise that its the word of another human being that you believe in.why cant you be strong on your own you have my pity that you believe in the word of another human being as they are manipulating you

]]> By: Jean Brown http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-4904 Jean Brown Mon, 15 Mar 2010 14:33:28 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-4904 I just recently had a break up about a month ago. I was with my partner for 6 years. Then one day he doesn't want to be with me any more. It really wasn't anything new but we always got back together...but this time is different. I feel like he let me down and he disappointed me. It hurts. I pray for strength and patience. I feel like for the past month i have been waiting for him to come to my rescue now I just don't really believe that he is ever coming back. He was my first love and I hate when ppl say that I will probably never forget him... I want to soo bad...Why would I want to remember someone tha thas caused me sooo much pain. I wish that things could go back to normal. But im not going to force it. Im trying to see God will and plan for me. but alot of times I just find it hard to focus. hard to want to be around ppl. hard to want to move forward. I just recently had a break up about a month ago. I was with my partner for 6 years. Then one day he doesn’t want to be with me any more. It really wasn’t anything new but we always got back together…but this time is different. I feel like he let me down and he disappointed me. It hurts. I pray for strength and patience. I feel like for the past month i have been waiting for him to come to my rescue now I just don’t really believe that he is ever coming back. He was my first love and I hate when ppl say that I will probably never forget him… I want to soo bad…Why would I want to remember someone tha thas caused me sooo much pain.

I wish that things could go back to normal. But im not going to force it. Im trying to see God will and plan for me. but alot of times I just find it hard to focus. hard to want to be around ppl. hard to want to move forward.

]]> By: ari lay http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-4853 ari lay Mon, 08 Feb 2010 11:34:56 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-4853 i just had a break up from a 1 and half year relationship it me so bad my body was frozen my mind was comfused and my heart was screaming for the pain to stop i wish i got my ex bak but sumthings telling me i wont i just want to speak to some1 i just had a break up from a 1 and half year relationship it me so bad my body was frozen my mind was comfused and my heart was screaming for the pain to stop i wish i got my ex bak but sumthings telling me i wont i just want to speak to some1

]]> By: Daniel Ngari http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-4849 Daniel Ngari Sun, 07 Feb 2010 20:42:13 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-4849 Funmi I hope this has come to pass that God has revealed the way ahead. It is not easy but take heart. Everything, especially pain, comes to an end. Funmi I hope this has come to pass that God has revealed the way ahead. It is not easy but take heart. Everything, especially pain, comes to an end.

]]> By: Daniel Ngari http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-4848 Daniel Ngari Sun, 07 Feb 2010 20:40:41 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-4848 Be strong and ask for God's help in dealing with it. Good to hear that the article helped you feel a lil better. Be strong and ask for God’s help in dealing with it. Good to hear that the article helped you feel a lil better.

]]> By: Sarah Paz http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-4840 Sarah Paz Wed, 03 Feb 2010 15:49:20 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-4840 Hello, I ran into to this blog by accident and it could have been the best thing for me this morning because I feel like my world is falling apart. I've had break-ups and guys lying to me and sometimes I wonder when is it going to stop. I have my life together and despite my painful childhood I've stayed positive but I feel pain is taking over me this time. I can't meet a nice honest guy. In the past year my dating life has been covered by a dark cloud. I was dating a guy who I really liked and thought he could be the one. We became really good friends and because he felt he could be honest with me he told me he had a girlfriend while he was dating me. He tells me all these things they did together and not once did he cook for me or took me somewhere where it was romantic. I still have feelings for him and it's hard for me to walk away when he is my best friend. I pray asking God to please take the pain away and help me move on but my heart still hurts. I cry and I always have to tell him it's because I'm having a bad day. He knows he hurt me and has apologize for it but at the end of the day my heart was broken by him and there's nothing he can do to fix it. Thank you for your positive words because this morning I feel a little bit better. Hello,

I ran into to this blog by accident and it could have been the best thing for me this morning because I feel like my world is falling apart. I’ve had break-ups and guys lying to me and sometimes I wonder when is it going to stop. I have my life together and despite my painful childhood I’ve stayed positive but I feel pain is taking over me this time. I can’t meet a nice honest guy. In the past year my dating life has been covered by a dark cloud. I was dating a guy who I really liked and thought he could be the one. We became really good friends and because he felt he could be honest with me he told me he had a girlfriend while he was dating me. He tells me all these things they did together and not once did he cook for me or took me somewhere where it was romantic. I still have feelings for him and it’s hard for me to walk away when he is my best friend. I pray asking God to please take the pain away and help me move on but my heart still hurts. I cry and I always have to tell him it’s because I’m having a bad day. He knows he hurt me and has apologize for it but at the end of the day my heart was broken by him and there’s nothing he can do to fix it. Thank you for your positive words because this morning I feel a little bit better.

]]> By: funmi fasunloye http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-4612 funmi fasunloye Mon, 05 Oct 2009 14:14:19 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-4612 I thought i had gotten over it , only for me to know that I still love this person very much and am willing to correct all my mistakes , I started seeing things and reasons why I should have stayed , there was revelations backed up with a lot of convictions , but now this person is with someone else , I tried to fight back for my love , letting go is not easy now , I think about him everyday , i see him in my dreams , in everything I do , i have tried to preoccupy myself with writing and doing my own thing , but in the midst of it all I still feel lonely , i can only depend and trust God , either to give me back my love or to give me someone else ...its so tough but I know this too shall pass I thought i had gotten over it , only for me to know that I still love this person very much and am willing to correct all my mistakes , I started seeing things and reasons why I should have stayed , there was revelations backed up with a lot of convictions , but now this person is with someone else , I tried to fight back for my love , letting go is not easy now , I think about him everyday , i see him in my dreams , in everything I do , i have tried to preoccupy myself with writing and doing my own thing , but in the midst of it all I still feel lonely , i can only depend and trust God , either to give me back my love or to give me someone else …its so tough but I know this too shall pass

]]> By: Daniel Ngari http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-2057 Daniel Ngari Thu, 14 May 2009 02:55:02 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-2057 @ Renee - Do not give power over your life to someone who is not answering your calls. Find healing from within. As harsh as that may sound, it is the only way of easing the pain. I wish you well. @ Renee – Do not give power over your life to someone who is not answering your calls. Find healing from within. As harsh as that may sound, it is the only way of easing the pain. I wish you well.

]]> By: Dan Gicharu http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-2015 Dan Gicharu Wed, 13 May 2009 16:30:10 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-2015 Sorry, my heart goes out to you. Take heart & move ahead. Live courageously, men undergo everything under the sun. Sorry, my heart goes out to you. Take heart & move ahead. Live courageously, men undergo everything under the sun.

]]> By: Renee Mburu http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-2002 Renee Mburu Wed, 13 May 2009 13:06:35 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-2002 I have been a lurker for a few months now, and as much as i keep coming back this time the topic caught my attention. I'm one worried lady at this point in time. I don't know if i'm going through a break up or not. About two months ago i did something that even i cannot imagine i did, clouded by insecurity i accused my long term boyfriend of something that was so out of this world. I think i had taken for granted the fact that he is not the kind of person that gets mad. This time i was wrong he got mad and its been two months and counting and he still wont talk to me, i have tried everything and i'm starting to give up. I feel like i'm mourning something that i have not confirmed if i have lost it or not. I'm praying so hard and its working but i'm the kind of person that needs closure before i can start to heal. I have been a lurker for a few months now, and as much as i keep coming back this time the topic caught my attention. I’m one worried lady at this point in time. I don’t know if i’m going through a break up or not.

About two months ago i did something that even i cannot imagine i did, clouded by insecurity i accused my long term boyfriend of something that was so out of this world. I think i had taken for granted the fact that he is not the kind of person that gets mad. This time i was wrong he got mad and its been two months and counting and he still wont talk to me, i have tried everything and i’m starting to give up. I feel like i’m mourning something that i have not confirmed if i have lost it or not. I’m praying so hard and its working but i’m the kind of person that needs closure before i can start to heal.

]]> By: Robert Wilkins http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-1714 Robert Wilkins Wed, 06 May 2009 21:39:24 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-1714 It is so vivid.............the pain of heartache. Never contemplating suicide, I almost wish I could end everything so the pain would go away. It's worse than anything physically broken. I'm in the ending stages of a marriage where I could stay in it, but would have to accept the fact that the only reason my spouse stays is because she feels ' sorry ' for me. One for lying and cheating, and the other for my suspect health ( Heart attack 05' ) But after a few days of weaving thru her web of lies, I know she longs to be with the "Other" guy. I can see it in her eyes. She's very young, and I know in my heart she had a greater love for " Him " than me, I was a "Father figure" who brought her from another country and figured that alone ( Me getting her out of poverty ) would translate into some degree of love. But she was young and not yet Americanized.............but learned quickly. Her dilema is/ was that she is torn between loyalty and sympathy.........with true love. All this is not meant to excuse my bad behavior. I took her for granted in that she would/ should be so grateful ( I've also helped her family financially ) that she would be faithful in her vows, never stray and just "Know " I loved her. And all this while even me................much older now realizing just how much she meant to me , but just expecting her to understand. I guess even now, I'll never be sure of where she is and why. All the answers are in front of me. My heart aches with the fact that I know now she manipulated me into telling her to get out before so she could be with this other guy and not have guilt. And the final fact came today. After a little prodding, I believe some of her tears are for the other guy.........and for her passion that might not happen with him. I asked her point blank if she was with me because she felt sorry for me...............and she bowed her head slightly, and said nothing. I think anyone..........from a child to a senior would know the true answer then It is so vivid………….the pain of heartache. Never contemplating suicide, I almost wish I could end everything so the pain would go away. It’s worse than anything physically broken. I’m in the ending stages of a marriage where I could stay in it, but would have to accept the fact that the only reason my spouse stays is because she feels ‘ sorry ‘ for me. One for lying and cheating, and the other for my suspect health ( Heart attack 05′ ) But after a few days of weaving thru her web of lies, I know she longs to be with the “Other” guy. I can see it in her eyes. She’s very young, and I know in my heart she had a greater love for ” Him ” than me, I was a “Father figure” who brought her from another country and figured that alone ( Me getting her out of poverty ) would translate into some degree of love. But she was young and not yet Americanized………….but learned quickly. Her dilema is/ was that she is torn between loyalty and sympathy………with true love. All this is not meant to excuse my bad behavior. I took her for granted in that she would/ should be so grateful ( I’ve also helped her family financially ) that she would be faithful in her vows, never stray and just “Know ” I loved her. And all this while even me…………….much older now realizing just how much she meant to me , but just expecting her to understand.
I guess even now, I’ll never be sure of where she is and why. All the answers are in front of me. My heart aches with the fact that I know now she manipulated me into telling her to get out before so she could be with this other guy and not have guilt.
And the final fact came today. After a little prodding, I believe some of her tears are for the other guy………and for her passion that might not happen with him. I asked her point blank if she was with me because she felt sorry for me……………and she bowed her head slightly, and said nothing. I think anyone……….from a child to a senior would know the true answer then

]]> By: Daniel Ngari http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-1172 Daniel Ngari Thu, 09 Apr 2009 09:30:06 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-1172 @ Jacinta - Good to hear you are trying to stay positive through all this. Hope you find healing and may love come your way. @ Jacinta – Good to hear you are trying to stay positive through all this. Hope you find healing and may love come your way.

]]> By: Jacinta Wambui http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-1171 Jacinta Wambui Thu, 09 Apr 2009 07:55:36 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-1171 Thank you so much for your inspiring message for sure they have helped me so much especially this time of my life where am undergoing a heartbreak ;my guy broke up with me because of our differences,for sure, i never thoght we would ever part until he disclosed to me,but your inspiring messages gave me the strength to accept my loss and am trying to make each day a positive day thanks to you Dan. Thank you so much for your inspiring message for sure they have helped me so much especially this time of my life where am undergoing a heartbreak ;my guy broke up with me because of our differences,for sure, i never thoght we would ever part until he disclosed to me,but your inspiring messages gave me the strength to accept my loss and am trying to make each day a positive day thanks to you Dan.

]]> By: Joy http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-1170 Joy Thu, 09 Apr 2009 06:22:39 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-1170 @at Dan wacha wewe Sam has a serious suggestion.... @at Dan wacha wewe Sam has a serious suggestion….

]]> By: Daniel Ngari http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-1161 Daniel Ngari Wed, 08 Apr 2009 10:29:40 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-1161 @ Karen - Thank you for pointing that angle out. It is true, heartbreaks can be caused by family and friends too. The heartbreaks when trust is eroded. @ Karen – Thank you for pointing that angle out. It is true, heartbreaks can be caused by family and friends too. The heartbreaks when trust is eroded.

]]> By: Daniel Ngari http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-1160 Daniel Ngari Wed, 08 Apr 2009 10:26:08 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-1160 @ Maria - Thank you for sharing your story. It is my sincere hope that you have gone on to find true happiness and true love. If not yet, I hope you do. You deserve better than you got. @ Maria – Thank you for sharing your story. It is my sincere hope that you have gone on to find true happiness and true love. If not yet, I hope you do. You deserve better than you got.

]]> By: Maria http://www.danielngari.com/blog/2009/04/10-powerful-strategies-for-dealing-with-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-1159 Maria Wed, 08 Apr 2009 09:38:05 +0000 http://www.danielngari.com/?p=1878#comment-1159 Dear Dan, Thank you for sharing this with us. It is real and it does happen. I love all your articles but this particular one has really touched my soul. I always thought men do not feel the way we women do but I have now learnt that maybe their pain is way deeper than ours! Let me share my story with you. 2 years ago I met a man I loved very much he was everything to me and we had a good relationship. He was husband material and had all the good qualities any partner would desire, just one year down the line for me to find out he was married and a father of a 6 year old girl. He even introduced me to his little daughter claiming she was his niece (later for me to find out she was his biological daughter) He kept this secret from me for all that time, all the promises of marriage and bliss to me were false. I was even ready to elope with this man since my family and friends never approved of him in the first place. You can imagine the shock and pain I went through when I found out what a perfect liar he was. But what helped me get over the heart break were a few things below which I would like to share with you and the rest of the readers. 1) Prayer – I made an extra effort than the normal to be closer to God. This gave me an inner peace and I realized I healed faster. I asked God to help me forget the nightmare I went through and I forgave myself for making the wrong choice knowing I am human and I have made a mistake which has made me stronger and wiser. I prayed more and it worked for me. 2) I took a short trip – the change in air helped me a lot to clear my mind and make a plan to move on with my life from where I was left. I was in a place where there was no “memory” of my partner, a place where nobody knew me. When I saw other happier people on vacation I realized that I could be happy too with or without him and accepted that this was a dark part of my life which was over. The trip was about me and only me and my life. And in my mind I knew that when I go back home – I will be a new person. 3) I got rid of every single thing that would bring back his memory i.e teddy bears, cards, jewellary that he gifted me etc. It was a good riddens situation and he was the past. 4) I had a haircut which made me look and feel different. Believe me my ex was not happy to see this change in me as he thought I had moved on faster than he thought! Or just do something special for yourself to make you feel good, buy yourself a new perfume or shirt, go for a massage etc The above are just a few of the things which helped me get over my break up. I guess these heartaches and break ups are just opportunity’s for us to get sharper. Dan keep up the good work and may God bless you! Dear Dan,

Thank you for sharing this with us. It is real and it does happen. I love all your articles but this particular one has really touched my soul. I always thought men do not feel the way we women do but I have now learnt that maybe their pain is way deeper than ours!

Let me share my story with you. 2 years ago I met a man I loved very much he was everything to me and we had a good relationship. He was husband material and had all the good qualities any partner would desire, just one year down the line for me to find out he was married and a father of a 6 year old girl. He even introduced me to his little daughter claiming she was his niece (later for me to find out she was his biological daughter) He kept this secret from me for all that time, all the promises of marriage and bliss to me were false. I was even ready to elope with this man since my family and friends never approved of him in the first place. You can imagine the shock and pain I went through when I found out what a perfect liar he was. But what helped me get over the heart break were a few things below which I would like to share with you and the rest of the readers.

1) Prayer – I made an extra effort than the normal to be closer to God. This gave me an inner peace and I realized I healed faster. I asked God to help me forget the nightmare I went through and I forgave myself for making the wrong choice knowing I am human and I have made a mistake which has made me stronger and wiser. I prayed more and it worked for me.

2) I took a short trip – the change in air helped me a lot to clear my mind and make a plan to move on with my life from where I was left. I was in a place where there was no “memory” of my partner, a place where nobody knew me. When I saw other happier people on vacation I realized that I could be happy too with or without him and accepted that this was a dark part of my life which was over. The trip was about me and only me and my life. And in my mind I knew that when I go back home – I will be a new person.

3) I got rid of every single thing that would bring back his memory i.e teddy bears, cards, jewellary that he gifted me etc. It was a good riddens situation and he was the past.

4) I had a haircut which made me look and feel different. Believe me my ex was not happy to see this change in me as he thought I had moved on faster than he thought! Or just do something special for yourself to make you feel good, buy yourself a new perfume or shirt, go for a massage etc

The above are just a few of the things which helped me get over my break up. I guess these heartaches and break ups are just opportunity’s for us to get sharper. Dan keep up the good work and may God bless you!

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