Making your Relationship Last
Some relationships are single serving like airline food. Others last a life time. How do you make your relationship edge closer to a life time relationship? I don’t have all the answers, but following these rules can only be good for your relationship. 1 – Communication
Communication is the lubricant of the relationship machine. It is one of the major corner stones of a relationship. Without proper and clear communication, a relationship may be as good as a shell. You need to let your partner in on what you are going through.
Learning to communicate with your partner will have gone a long way in improving a relationship. However, it has to be two way, both have to make time for listening and empathizing with each other.
2 – Work at it
Some people love the thrill of the chase but get bored senseless when it comes to the day to day operations of the relationship. Do you still do the sweet little things that you used to do in the early days of the relationship? Sloppiness and laziness damage relationships. Relationships are hard work so fold up your sleeves and get to work.
Be keen to make your partner feel good about themselves. Consciously working to improve the relationship is what keeps the fire burning.
3 – Make time
In the current world, people have to work for long hours or even take up several jobs. This however does not mean that your relationship should be left unattended. Learn to create time daily or weekly to spend with your partner, and connect with them as at a personal level. Be careful not to spend this time talking about the children or bills. Utilize it to enjoy each others company and connect with them and what they are going through as individuals.
4 – Support each others decisions
When your partner has an idea, for instance starting a business or buying something, be there to help them and offer them the support that you can. Be a pillar to your partner and you will be surprised how such will bring you closer together.
5 – Do not force them to change
Trying to change your partner may cause more harm than good in your relationship. Instead focus on their good traits and reinforce them. Learn to live with their flaws but do not force your partner to be something they are not, just because that is what you want, or that’s how you expect them to behave.
6 – Take care of yourself
Before you can take care of your partner you need to take care of yourself. You need to watch your health, and make sure you are living responsibly. Only when you are in good shape can you be able to take care of your partner. This will also help you remain desirable and maintain the good image your partner saw when you were starting out.
7 – Do not judge harshly
Criticism can cause a rift between you and should be approached very carefully. When correcting your partner do so with love and gently, shouting and belittling your partner may not serve your intended purpose.
8 – Evolve with your relationship
Change is a constant in life; needs and expectations are not static. Your relationship changes with time too. And for you to keep it going, you have to be aware of the changes taking place and adjust accordingly. Simply put, keep renewing your contract, to make sure your changing needs and your partners are met.
9 – Make decisions jointly.
If you start running your own show in your relationship then you are just spelling out disaster. This is because you will start having things that your partner has no idea about. Consult with your partner before you make any decisions, they will feel needed and loved when you solicit their input and their thoughts about any issue.
10 – Courtship should last a lifetime
You remember the effort you put to make your partner happy when your relationship was young? The gifts, compliments, loving embraces – those little things that you initially did, go a long way in helping you bond more. They have the best effect if they are surprises. Your relationship will continue to grow everyday.
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Communication is vital.. without it then, we never understand each other. it would be like that towel of Babel which could no longer be built.. Creating time is challenging but possible especially where time differences are too large.. but we can always catch up on emails. sms and all.. Good thought for the soul .. Thanks Dan.
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