Revealed: 7 Relationship Myths
Relationships often fail because of having the wrong mind set. We have the wrong idea of how things should be. There are several theories about relationships that are taken as gospel truth and yet people wonder why things never improve.
In today’s post we uncover some relationship myths that may be holding us back. Hopefully you will be inspired to approach relationships from a new angle.
Myth 1: A great relationship depends on a seamless connection of the minds.
It is important to remember that you are two different people. You may have different outlooks in life but the kind of relationship you have has nothing to do with this. You will not avoid conflict by supposedly thinking alike. You should not bend backwards and start thinking like the other person in the belief that you will have a happy relationship. On the contrary you will become a very unhappy person.
Myth 2: You require very high problem solving skills in a relationship otherwise it won’t work.
You will be surprised how many problems are actually unsolvable in relationships. This is for the simple reason that you are historically different in your beliefs on some issues. And there is nothing wrong with that. When you are different, problems will keep arising and not all are solvable, but this doesn’t mean you can’t have a good relationship. You just get to a level where both of you can let it go. Learn to live with the differences.
Myth 3: You need to have common interests that hold you together forever.
You don’t need to have common interests to get your relationship working. Creating time for each other is the most important thing to do, not forcing your partner into golf or a book club because that is what you like.
Myth 4: A great relationship has to be peaceful.
Arguments are a part of life and there are times you will feel like setting your partner on fire. But that does not mean your relationship wont work. On the contrary you will be able to settle your differences and perhaps become better people after a very heated argument. Do not feel the temptation to suppress your true feelings when you disagree with your spouse about something
Myth 5: You are able to totally speak your mind in a great relationship.
When words leave your mouth, there is no way you can ever take them back. Whether you have the best relationship in the world, some things that you spurt out may harm your relationship forever. Before you let out those words consider that effect they will have in your relationship, be wise enough to think objectively even when you are very angry.
Myth 6: If you have flaws then you cannot have a great relationship.
No person is perfect. We all have shortcomings in one way or the other. There are some with more visible flaws than others, if your partner has a few problems, learn to work around them. Always focus on the things that attracted you to them in the first place. Work on your relationship and you can achieve nirvana with that same person.
Myth 7: There is a universal way of making a relationship great
There is no single road map to a successful relationship. There are many ways as there are people in the world. This is not to say that the fundamentals of a healthy relationship such as communication be abused. But do not try to blindly do what you read in a book; work with what is good for you and your partner. There is not a standard way of making your relationship great.
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this has been really insightful and thought provoking.
thanks
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For us to know each other. we need to spend time together and embrace each other as we are,then work on what is not lifting us.Being our brother’s keeper is very neccessary.
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that was a class ryt there! very educative. Thanks Daniel.
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