Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

There are actions and habits that should be reason enough for you to run to the hills. You shall know them by their fruits. How good are you at spotting trouble in relationships? What can you do to avoid the eminent danger posed by these evil signs?

1.    You expect that your partner will fix it all

As an individual, you may have deep issues such as fear or low self-esteem.  You may wrongly imagine that as long as you are in a relationship your partner will fix those problems.

Some of the problems you have as a person, only YOU can solve. A relationship should not be a substitute for problem solving skills. Expecting your partner to be Mr or Mrs Fix-it-all is self delusion and leads to disappointment.

2.    Control freak

If you are a control freak then that relationship is not likely to last so long. If one of you is always threatening to leave when things are not done in a certain way, then that’s a big red sign right there. Forcing your way in the relationship does not help solve anything either.

3.    Lack of trust

Trust is a fundamental ingredient in establishing a relationship. If you cannot trust the other person you will have problems getting convinced that they really love you. Diminishing trust is a sign of an impending catastrophe in a relationship.

4.    You have no other friends besides your significant other

If you are always hanging out with your significant other because you don’t have any networks besides your relationship, then by all means that’s unhealthy. Having other friends does not mean you do love your partner any less. But you get to learn from other people as well and there is nothing wrong with mingling and having a good time with other friends.

5.    There is abuse

Abuse can with be mental, verbal, or emotional. If the other person is subjecting you to any kind of abuse, then your relationship is ailing. The victim is always put down everyday of her/his life. In some cases they are not brave enough to speak out, so it looks like all is well. Abuse is not one of the recipes of a great relationship and both of you need to work on it.

6.    You feel like you have lost your own identity

Sharing your life with another person does not mean you become one. You are still two different people and you should not lose your uniqueness. Do not try to be like the other person. Your uniqueness is an asset in your relationship. Use it to add some freshness and flavor in your relationship. When you feel like you have lost that, then you are in a relationship that needs fixing.

7.    You are always on a disappointment mode

There is nothing that your partner seems to get right. None of your needs are met. This causes you disappointment all the time. It maybe a sign that maybe you are with the wrong person, or you need to revise your expectations. Evaluate your demands, what has changed? Are they different from what they were initially? Why did they change? These are some of the questions you can probe to try fix this problem.

8.    You get jealousy fits

When you don’t want to see your partner talk to anybody else, then this is a cause to worry you. This kind of insecurity is a sign of other deeply unsettling issues in your relationship. You need to sit and get to the root cause of this mistrust. There may be a bigger problem that should be arrested before things get out of hand.

9.    There are restrictions to your life

If you have restrictions on when and who you can see in your family, or among your friends, then you have a cause to worry. If your partner puts a ceiling on your goals and ambitions, then this is a relationship that needs fixing.

10. You are bored

Relationships are not supposed to be drama filled or action movies. You can afford to doze on and off and still have a great relationship. But if you are bored senseless, then that is a worrying sign. Find things to keep you interested in your partner. You only live twice, so make your current life better than your after life.

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