Vital Qualities of a Right Hand Man
One vital relationship that you need in your success journey is a right hand man (or woman). You need a friend, a close friend who will be your sounding board for your ideas. A person who will keep you in check and ensure that you are on the right track in your quest for success.
Not all your friends can play this role of a right hand man. Not everyone in your career line can do that either. To ensure that you have the right man (or woman) for the job, be careful to check that they have some of these qualities.
1. Has good motives
There are two types of friends; givers and takers. Givers will share their ideas, encourage you, motivate you, be there for you and much more. Takers will be on the look out for what they can squeeze out of you. They will take your ideas, your fighting spirit, your enthusiasm and resources.
You don’t want someone who is around to steal your ideas then take off. Gauge people who are genuinely interested in giving you the support you need. This does not mean you don’t share ideas with them, it but let it be mutual.
2. Have common goals
Don’t hold hands with someone jumping off the cliff (unless you are also jumping). When you are aiming for the same thing then it is easier to share experiences with your right hand man. A good right hand man should be moving in the same general direction as you.
3. Positive outlook in life
People who expect the best from life exude positivity and it’s contagious. They will push you to be the best you can be. But if your right hand man is only good at pointing out the flaws and impossibilities. Then you need to change company. If you surround yourself with such people you will not realize it but you will begin picking that negativity and doubting yourself. Make sure your right hand man is one who will have positive influence on you.
4. A person who you can learn from
Your right hand man doesn’t need to be your mentor but you should be able to learn a few things from this person either directly related to your career or in general aspects of life. He/she should be a person who enriches your life in one way or the other. They should have a positive effect on you.
5. Your right hand man should be reliable
Reliability is what sets apart friends from acquaintances. We all want to be around people we can trust. A person you know can count on to be there when you need them. The last thing you need is right hand man who does not pick up his phone when you are caught between a rock and a hard place.
6. Trustworthiness is key
A right hand man will be privy to some of your trade secrets, your weaknesses. You need to trust that such information is in safe hands. This is a person who knows quite a bit about you and could hurt you if he/she wanted to. Have an eye for spotting backstabbers before they hurt you.
7. A genuine friend
It is important that above all that your right hand man be your friend. When you have a genuine friend in your right hand man, then most of these are things will fall into place. A friend will want the best for you; a friend will be there to listen when you need someone to listen; a friend will also take care of your affairs in your absence.
When you have that person who can always be with you in your journey to success this is a great asset for you and will help you keep you focused.
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