Success: How Badly do You Want it?

by Daniel Ngari on November 2, 2009

I will start today’s post with a confession: I have a ravenous desire for success, hence this website. I am passionate about inspiring my friends to be the best they can be. My path to freedom and happiness is tied to how well I can inspire you. I am starving for success that is intricately tied to your success. Do you have a ravenous desire for success? Are you really hungry for success? How so?

We previously talked about what success means, and how to create a blueprint for your success. I truly believe that your success or failure is all in the mind. If you really need success and purpose it in your mind then you will succeed. But you need to be hungry for it.

A story is told of a shy young man who wanted to succeed. He saw an older man from his home town fishing. He mustered some courage and approached the highly successful old man and asked, “What is the secret to your success?”. Without saying as much as a word to the young man, the old man grabbed him and pushed him down into the lake.

The young man struggled to free himself, but the old man was strong and held him down. After a few minutes of a shockingly fierce struggle the old man pulled out the young from the water. The young man was belligerent and held the old man by the neck. “Why were were you trying to kill me?”, he asked.

The old man looked at the young man straight into his eyes and said “You see how much you wanted to breath while under the water. If you shall desire success with such intensity, then my son success shall be right there waiting for you.

Success begins with the mind. All you need is to set realistic goals, with appropriate time lines and have a big enough “WHY”.  Have you heard of the Australian movie Rabbit Proof Fence? The film tells the stoy of two Aboriginal girls as they trek/walk for nine weeks along 1,500 miles (2,400 km) of the Australian rabbit-proof fence to return to their home. They had a big enough “WHY” for walking such a lengthy distance. They were running away from prison to their native community.  I am sure we would not be friends for long if I told you to walk with me for mere 100 kilometers “to get to know each other“.

If you don’t have a big enough reason for doing something, chances are you will not do it. I want to inspire you to succeed. To awaken the giant within you. What is your goal in life? What do you want to achieve by the end of this year? Do you have a specific goal that you want to get to within the next 30 days?

You have to visualize that which you want, in the most vivid terms possible. The road to success is not paved with gold. Like all good things in life, success comes at a price. Be willing to pay the price, through preparation, burning desire, and perseverance.

To succeed, you need to take action. To take action, you need to have a reason. A quick and easy way of making yourself desire success is to use the carrot and  stick method. Let us say for example that your goal is to get a  job straight after college. This is how you might apply the carrot and  stick method to drive you to action.

Carrot Way

  • Think of the money you will earn.
  • Think of the nice holiday you will be able to afford.
  • Think of the boost in confidence and opportunities.

Stick Way

  • Think of the pile of bills that need to be paid.
  • Think of the gaps in your curriculum vitae (resume) that you will create if you stay out of the job market for long.
  • Think of the missed opportunities for advancement.
  • Think of the shame in failing to answer to the question “What do you do?”

Carrot and stick (also “carrot or stick”) is  idiom hat refers to a policy of offering a combination of rewards and punishment to induce behavior. It may derive from methods used for training mules and other animals by drawing them forward with rewards (the “carrot”) and driving them forward with punishment (the “stick”)

Whatever you goals are, you can apply the carrot and  stick method to build that fire within you. The fire that will ignite you into action and help you get to your goals.

Summary

How much do you want to succeed? You need to have a ravenous desire to succeed. Without that desire, it is hard to take action and overcome obstacles on the road to success.

Most of the obstacles to your success will be mental. Things like fear and self sabotage. Create in your mind a big enough “why” you want to succeed, and the journey to your success will become easier. All the best my friend. May success be upon you.


{ 12 comments }

Njau January 14, 2010 at 10:42 pm

Thanks so much Daniel.
You are living my dream, may God bless you.

Paula November 12, 2009 at 9:13 am

I am getting this message deep… how badly do i want success? very much!!

m.mwangi November 9, 2009 at 2:24 pm

hmmmm……that story of the old man…..has made me wonder if i want success the same way i want breath……….re-evaluation of priorities commences now…..

Paula November 2, 2009 at 10:44 pm

aint this awesome? Carrot or sticky? I choose to succeed!!

john kaburi kiarie njuguna machua April 8, 2009 at 8:01 pm

I’ve learned….
That life is like a roll of toilet paper.
The closer it gets to the end, the
faster it goes.

Esther Kinene February 27, 2009 at 4:58 pm

am an aspiring writter you have made my day………

Njeri February 23, 2009 at 10:13 pm

Too inspiring to be ignored – I love it!

jackie January 26, 2009 at 6:41 pm

good one Daniel.got me thinking now

David Kamau January 17, 2009 at 10:09 am

Smart it is…

Paula January 17, 2009 at 6:08 am

I agree with all the quotes above. Once I was listening to a Man of God from NIgeria Preach about success and it taught my attention when He said that ” The seed of greatness in in You.” Until I came to the light of the these words I was stuck there wondering what he really meant.
See, God did not go back to create the woman, because He had already created her in the man. He just picked a rib and out of what He had created, He made another body.
So is it with our lives… Whatever we need to be successful Is Already in us… Turn the potentials into realities. just like the man in this blog….: The Future belongs to those who dare’
Thank you Dan.

Nyomi January 16, 2009 at 9:01 pm

Oh, I forgot to add in my above post that on the area of goals, I learnt the following acronym at uni for goal setting: SMART. This stands for:
Sensible
Measurable
Achievable
Realistic
Timebound

I think it’s an easy to remember and helpful way to think about goal setting.

Take care.

Cheers,
Nyomi

Nyomi January 16, 2009 at 8:36 pm

Daniel, your ideas are flowing like a luxurious summer waterfall after a tropical storm in Bali. I just witnessed such a waterfall during my trip to Bali last week, and reading your articles evoke the feelings and memories of seeing that beautiful gift from God again; what an awesome feeling! Keep the articles coming my friend.

Extra happiness is just around the corner for me my friend, while you are already basking in happiness’ light, and – at this rate – it will only get brighter for you :o ) :o ) Remember to enjoy the journey as much as the destination.

Until we meet again I’ll quote one of my favourite blessings:
“May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon your fields,
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.”

Cheers,
Nyomi

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